What are you so afraid of? Is that fear holding you back? A long, long time ago I made my first blog entry, which expressed my fear of putting my ideas in writing for all of you. Well...possibly getting that first one out was not as fear quashing as I had hoped it to be, being that it has taken me months to get back to it. Or I was busy or whatever...
Seriously though, our fears can be a huge obstacle to what we really want. Do you know what you really want? (That's a whole nother post for a different day) Have you, can you even say it out loud? Is that a fear, saying what you want out loud, itself?
Sometimes our fears truly stop us. Sometimes we use them as a crutch. Oh no I am too scared of that therefore I cannot/will not attempt it... Why are you scared of it? What is the worst that could happen? I might fail. Maybe. I might succeed. Possibly even scarier. People will laugh at me. Okay. And?
Common fears. I am not good enough. Not smart enough. I don't want all of that attention. People will talk about me. I am not good enough. People will laugh at me. Don't have enough experience. Not good enough. Not good enough. Not good enough. Does this sound like the inside of your head? Are you possibly saying even worse things to yourself?
We (many of us) do this to ourselves for a multitude of reasons.
1. The thing we are "scared of" is simply out of our comfort zone. It's uncomfortable so we "fear" it. Using fear as a crutch or obstacle.
2. We have tried something and failed before. We did not like to sit in that feeling so we give up for fear of repeating it.
3. Someone has actually told us (parent, bully, society, teacher, whoever) that we are in fact are not good enough.
Fear stops us because when we are afraid, our brains, which are designed to keep us alive, kick in with every conceivable reason not to do the thing, because we might die. To our brains, fear is fear, and we go into survival mode. Even if it is fear of public speaking. Fear of being misunderstood. Fear of being alone. Even fear of stepping in front of the camera. Telling your whole truth. Your story.
This site, The Over Fifty Revolution was created first and foremost to show the images and tell the stories of the genre of the Phenomenal Women, who are over 50 years old. Women who have lived and loved and worked and had heartache and triumphs for upwards of 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, 100 + years. It is to highlight their accomplishments, chronicle their struggles, disseminate their hard earned wisdom and life lessons. To proclaim the dreams they have yet to attain and inspire others to keep dreaming. And doing. It is a platform, a vehicle to add to the global conversation and perception of what in fact it means to be a mature woman in this day and age. We are defining it for ourselves! And it is a living, growing, ever changing picture. Stereotypes don't stick to it.
I encourage you to be a part of this experience. This community. Push fear out of the way.
Be heard, be seen and know you have a place here. You are good enough.
No old thought, no societal beauty standard, no gray hair or changing body is going to keep you living in fear. Are you with me? Ladies we are LOVE. Fear and love cannot exist in the same space. Love yourself and release those fears and old stories of not good enough and let's spread the stories of the REAL real you!